Sometimes we live in a bubble. Truthfully, there are times when we need the bubble. Then there are times when we need the bubble to be popped so that we can see more of what is going on than we might be comfortable with on a daily basis.
It is easy to leave the work to others. It is easy to convince ourselves that if we focus on our own backyard, we need not trouble ourselves with the wider world. How often do we recognize the good work others are doing so that we can focus only on our backyard? Do we only notice these globally minded workers when they become embroiled in controversy? When we find ourselves at odds with one aspect of their work, do we condemn all the other good work?
Life is a set of scales, often comparing the positive and negative in our lives. We must evaluate the items tilting the scales in one direction or the other. Even if we need bubble time, we can’t forget that the scales will still need adjusting when the bubble pops. We should never allow our scales to tilt heavily in an unsettling direction due to the weight of unsavory choices made by others but defended due to our own desire to fit in.
Bubble time, the time to recharge and retreat from the fray, is occasionally necessary. Just don’t make that bubble so impenetrable that it won’t pop in time for your life scale to be adjusted before the negative side weighs you completely down.
Is it harder to walk on the flat, sandy beach than to climb up the hill after falling down? When we have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and climb back up a hill, we can clearly see the challenge before us. Yet, when we must stay true to our course along the sandy beach, we may not recognize the effort and challenge the shifting sand presents us. Life tends to give us hills to climb and beaches to cross. Keeping true to the course requires us to recognize the dedicated effort needed to accomplish both.
There is a parable of sorts that goes around about a religious man watching the flood waters rising. Rather than getting into the rescue boats or helicopter, he keeps saying God will save him. At the Pearly Gates he asks why he was not saved. The answer he receives is that two boats and a helicopter were sent.
In truth, the answer should have been, “Why didn’t you seek divine assistance and build yourself the boat before the flood?”
With divine help, we can build the boat and then when the flood waters rise, we can seek to assist those in need rather than waiting to be assisted by our fellow man.
I have found that basic patterns are sometimes the hardest to find, especially for free. This can make teaching a skill troublesome when simple and basic are required. Young and old, there are times when a bit more step-by-step help is needed in order to gain success. I know that on my fibro fog days, I require an easy-to-follow pattern, one that can act as a check list to cross off as I go.
Years ago I worked up a few dozen quilting patterns that I could use when I was giving tutorials on basic quilting for beginners. Now I find I am doing the same thing in crochet. So here is my first pattern and I hope a few more will arrive in the next weeks and months.
I keep asking myself about the difference between Facebook and the old fashioned social world were I was always advised to choose my friends wisely. Guilt by association is a real thing in some societal circles.
Do we follow the same rules in a social media world? Do we remain Facebook friends with those we would never want to socialize with in person?
If we ignore behavior on Facebook, or things we find unsavory, are we enabling or validating the people with whom we associate any more or less than we do in the workplace, the school, the store, the neighborhood?
Unfollow, restrict, unfriend, block: the value of remaining FB friends versus the value of separation.